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Advice for First Dates! Things to Consider Before a Date With Your Crush

Things to keep in mind before going on a date with a crush.




Do you get scared when you think of going on a first date? Do you squirm with humiliation as you recall the last one? Maybe you're at a loss for what to do on a first date. Maybe you're stuck for first-date ideas. Let us assure you that you are not alone in dealing with all of these issues; there are many others. So, we're here today to give you some first date advice, and we hope it's useful.


Be punctual


We're aware of the whole "fashionably late" thing, but trust us when we tell that showing up on time will create a better impression. Would you mind if they arrived late? Isn't that correct? So, please return the favor.


Wear Clothes That Make You Feel Good


Don't wear anything solely to impress someone if it doesn't make you feel good. Instead, choose something you enjoy and are confident in.


Compliment them (but not too much).


A strong, sincere compliment is appreciated by both men and women. However, if you offer too many throughout the date, it might start to seem cringe-worthy. A pleasant "Hey, you look wonderful" is perfectly acceptable, but if you're afraid about coming on too hard, compliment your date on anything other than their appearances, such as their laugh, sense of humor, intellect, or amazing musical choice.


Avoid Excessive Drinking


It may appear to be enjoyable in movies when people go bar hopping on first dates and get intoxicated, but that is not frequently the case in real life. It's acceptable to have a drink or two, but it's not cool to be carried home by someone you hardly know, nor is it cool to be slurring your words at the dinner table.

Address Questions


Simply asking questions is a guaranteed technique to keep the discussion moving. Keep things semi-general (job, family, hobbies, etc.) until you're both ready to discuss the major issues, such as politics, religion, and, um, exes.


Be in the current moment.


You don't need to check those texts right now, regardless of how much your buddies are laughing at that Twitter someone just shared. Ignoring external distractions will demonstrate to your date that you are invested in the shared experience and will make them feel appreciated.



Relaxing and enjoying the time you two have together is also beneficial to your personal well-being. "Take your time". Take it easy. Before speaking, take a breather. Pay attention to and relish your five senses: smell, touch, sight, sound, and taste. Listen. Breathe. You both deserve to enjoy this time together, even if it turns out that you're not compatible later on."


What about online dating?


Safety is especially crucial in the online dating environment for both men and women. Meet in a public spot where others can see you and notify a buddy of your plans—you could even share your location with them so they can check-in and see where you are if they haven't heard from you by a particular time.


And, unless you've already built trust with the person you're going on a date with, don't let them pick you up or drop you off at your place. You don't need any random internet user to know where you reside. I'm not trying to terrify you—all I want is for you to be careful out there!


Keep in mind to have a wonderful time!


Putting pressure on a date to go a specific way takes away the joy and turns it into an obligation.  "Try to have fun, laugh, and enjoy each other's company." At the very least, you can create a new buddy out of the situation."



First Date Tips - Podcast



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