Strike Out Aimlessness, Depression, and Loneliness
What to Do When You Don't Have a Goal, Feel Sad, or Are Lonely.
The majority of my waking hours are spent avoiding confronting the reality that I have the feeling that I am a failure. You are not the only one going through this; in fact, I know a few other individuals who are going through the same thing that you are right now.
You want to address with affection and empathy the huge obvious problem at hand in your life, which is the deep-seated insecurities, and I continue to hear the same story as would be natural for you, which is that you continue to play in your mind over and over again that you're not adequate. In the first place, you want to address with affection and empathy the huge problem at hand in your life, which is the deep-seated insecurities. You need to handle yourself with total love and self-acknowledgement in order to take care of this in the deepest part of your heart with honesty, without passing judgement on yourself or feeling ashamed of who you are.
In addition, you should begin to practice joy by practicing thanks. There was a time in my life when I had absolutely nothing, and at that time, I was in the exact same position as you are right now. In addition, I want to spare you some trouble by letting you know that finding joy is not easy; rather, it is something that must be practiced. A skill that has to be activated and practiced on a daily basis in order to be effective.
I heard somewhere, although I can't remember who said it, that contentment and joy are not directly formed by acquiring a good car or degree; rather, they are directly created by practicing appreciation. I have no idea where I heard this, but I do remember hearing it. For instance, when you find yourself feeling down and blue, practicing thankfulness by bringing up two to three things that you are feeling appreciative for and I mean really appreciative for is a good idea. For example, you could be thankful for your computer or cell phone because it has provided you with a source of entertainment.
You could be thankful for your eyes that work and never let you down, or you could be thankful for your breath because it takes care of itself regardless of what is going on with you and always remembers to take a breath no matter what you are going through. Both of these things deserve your gratitude. You won't be able to fully appreciate the difference until you carry out this strategy over an extended period of time. You will find that, in the long run, you are more likely to choose contentment than to continue to load your brain with the same thoughts and ideas that you are currently considering.
Your level of contentment should not be dependent on the kind of job you have, the kind of residence you have, the kind of state you live in, the amount of money you have, or how much money you don't have. These myriad of different types of thoughts are distracting you from the consistent reality, which is that bliss must be practiced; it is an ability; it does not simply occur naturally. It is especially important to practice doing so in times when major difficulties cannot be avoided.
The second point is that you still have a requirement that the rest of the world acknowledge your individuality. You will always require being a component of what is now available. Because of your desire for acceptance from the people in your environment, you keep causing mental harm to yourself even though you know it's not healthy.
In addition to this, it will continue to happen as long as you keep looking to the outside world for acceptance and acknowledgement of your actions. You need to do an inward investigation and start with practicing mindfulness while paying attention to the tendencies you have for thought. It is the best chance for you to realize that this viewpoint does not appear to be legitimate any longer, and you should take advantage of it. Tolerating yourself and life in general should be your primary focus right now. You should truly be looking for approval from only one source: yourself. You should truly get friendly with yourself first before you try to do the same with another person.
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In point of fact, what you are looking for is information. You will find freedom once you face reality.
The first of these truths is that you have a lot of time to figure out a solution to your problem (you shouldn't throw away this precious resource).
If starting a family and finding a partner is something you want to accomplish, you may easily have ten years or more to do it before you have to make a decision about it. There is a possibility that you may have thirty years or more to establish yourself in a vocation (or two professions).
Given the advancements that have been made in medical care recently, there is a good chance that you will still be alive in fifty years. In the event that you are comparing yourself to other people in their middle 30s, keep in mind that some of those other people could be in jobs or relationships that they do not much enjoy.
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Try to get a hold of anything that you are enthusiastic about and see if there are any creative ways that you can work with it. This is the most important thing that you can do. However, stressing about your "disappointment" won't assist you in the least; the best thing you can do is get started right now.
It is probable that you need to first handle the slump that you are experiencing. Bear in mind that even if everything else stays the same, you still have the rest of your life ahead of you, and it is far too early to label yourself as disappointed.
You want to feel much better about the fact that you are pondering not having any want to waste your life at a young age. This is the most important thing you want to feel better about. My best guess is that a very large percentage of people don't engage in this behaviour. It's possible that you've come to the realization that you need to go through some of the "exhausting" professional experiences and other nerve-wracking stuff in order to get to something more satisfying.
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On the other hand, in the event that you care thus much about achieving achievement and not wasting your life, you won't. Put simply, make it a priority to carry on making astute decisions. Simply waiting around won't do anything. Assuming that you have made a mistake, you have the ability to correct it. That is the approach that the most successful people take to make things happen.
"A goal ensures progress."