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DEALING WITH TENACIOUS/STUBBORN PEOPLE

Managing tough people might make you want to beat your head against a brick wall!

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Everyone has been there. The important thing is that you can take care of business. While watching How to Remain Positive with Negative People - By Sandeep Maheshwari, I came across a phrase that would have a huge influence on how you check out - and manage determined/difficult folks. The statement reads as follows:


"Sensible thinking will not be capable of providing answers to the questions that matter most in everyday life."


It can be hard to deal with stubborn people, but there are some things you can do to make things better. Here are some tips:

  1. Be patient: Stubborn people can be frustrating to deal with, but it's important to remain calm and patient. Avoid getting into arguments or becoming defensive.

  2. Listen actively: When dealing with a stubborn person, it's important to actively listen to their point of view. Show empathy and understanding, and try to see the situation from their perspective.

  3. Empathize: Try to put yourself in their shoes and understand why they are being stubborn. Perhaps they have had negative experiences in the past, or maybe they feel like they are not being heard.

  4. Be firm: While it's important to be patient and understanding, it's also important to be firm when necessary. Don't be afraid to set boundaries and communicate your own needs and expectations.

  5. Offer options: Sometimes, stubborn people feel like they have no control over the situation. Offering them choices or options can help them feel more in control and more willing to compromise.

  6. Seek a mediator: If you are unable to resolve the situation on your own, consider seeking the help of a neutral third party, such as a mediator or counselor.

Remember that dealing with stubborn people can be hard, but things can get better with patience, empathy, and clear communication.


Also, READ | A sense of attachment


What about some stubborn people that disrupt mental serenity and productivity


Dealing with stubborn people who disrupt your mental serenity and productivity can be especially challenging. Here are some additional tips that may help:

  1. Set clear boundaries: Make it clear to the stubborn person what you are willing and not willing to tolerate. Be firm but polite in your communication and stick to your boundaries.

  2. Avoid engaging in arguments: Engaging in arguments with stubborn people often leads to a dead-end. Instead, try to remain calm and rational, and focus on finding a solution.

  3. Don't take it personally: Remember that stubborn behavior is often a reflection of the other person's personality or experiences, and it may not have anything to do with you. Try not to take their behavior personally.

  4. Focus on your own goals: Keep your focus on your own goals and priorities. Don't let the stubborn person distract you from what you need to accomplish.

  5. Take breaks: If dealing with a stubborn person is causing you stress, take a break from the situation. This can help you regain your mental serenity and productivity.

  6. Seek support: If the stubborn person is disrupting your mental health, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. They can help you develop coping strategies and improve your emotional resilience.

It can be hard to deal with stubborn people, but it's important to stay focused on your own goals and needs. With patience, understanding, and clear communication, you can find a way to handle the situation and keep your mind calm and work done.



What Has Love Got to Do With It?


Love can help you deal with stubborn people, especially in close relationships like romantic relationships, family, or friendships. Here are some ways that love can help you deal with people who are hard to move:

  1. Patience: Love can give you the patience and resilience needed to deal with a stubborn person. When you care deeply for someone, it's easier to be patient and understanding with them.

  2. Empathy: Love can help you to put yourself in the other person's shoes and see things from their perspective. This can help you to better understand their stubbornness and find ways to work together.

  3. Compassion: Love can foster compassion, which can help you to approach the situation with kindness and understanding.

  4. Willingness to compromise: When you love someone, you are often more willing to compromise and find a solution that works for both parties.

  5. Motivation to find a solution: Love can motivate you to work through the challenges of dealing with a stubborn person and find a solution that benefits both parties.

It's important to remember that love alone might not be enough to deal with stubborn people, especially if their behaviour is causing a lot of trouble or stress. But when combined with other tools like clear communication and setting boundaries, love can be a very powerful way to deal with hard situations.


A narcissistic relationship


In a narcissistic relationship, one person, usually the narcissist, is too focused on their own needs, wants, and desires and often puts them before those of their partner. Narcissistic relationships can be emotionally abusive and manipulative, which can hurt the mental health and well-being of the partner.


Here are some signs of a narcissistic relationship:

  1. The narcissist is always the center of attention: In a narcissistic relationship, the narcissist is often the center of attention and demands that their partner constantly focuses on them.

  2. Lack of empathy: Narcissists often lack empathy for their partner's feelings and needs, and are more concerned with their own wants and desires.

  3. Emotional manipulation: Narcissists may use emotional manipulation to control their partner, such as guilt-tripping or playing mind games.

  4. Gaslighting: Narcissists may use gaslighting to make their partner doubt their own reality and feel like they are going crazy.

  5. Power and control: Narcissists may seek to exert power and control over their partner, often through emotional or psychological means.

If you think you might be in a narcissistic relationship, you should talk to a therapist or counsellor for help. They can help you figure out how the relationship works and come up with ways to keep your mental health and well-being safe. In a relationship, it's also important to set limits and put your own needs and well-being first.



Also, READ | What is Narcissism


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