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It's Okay Not To Be Okay!

You control your life.

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You are going to have days in which you genuinely do not feel okay, regardless of whether you are dealing with depression or are simply experiencing a dreary day, week, or month. Make an effort not to feel any remorse. Simply put your attention on improving the way you interact with yourself, and you'll find that your mood gradually improves.

The speed of life has quickened to the point where many of us are unable to completely adjust to the new normal. Because of the anxiety that we experience, it is difficult for us to get things done, which further contributes to the downward cycle of inaction that we find ourselves in. We live in a buzz of worry that we are not doing what we are intended to accomplish. What we really need is more agency, which is the capacity to ignore everything that tries to pull us in different directions, maintain emotional and physical equilibrium, think more clearly, and argue for ourselves in order to be able to select a path of action that is rational. When we have agency, we have the ability to feel as though we are more in control of our lives.

Stimuli under control

Your level of agency is directly proportional to what you allow into your mind, which is what you take in from the world around you. If you feel like you have no control over the situation, it's probable that someone else is commanding your attention, and you need to find out how to take it back.

For instance, studies have shown that having a phone in the same room as you while you work makes you more likely to become distracted and impairs your ability to focus. On the other hand, going for a walk, particularly one outside, is a fantastic method to restore attention in your brain after it has been exhausted, which will allow you to focus more effectively afterwards.

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To assist you in gaining more control over your life, you should get into the habit of escaping to places that are devoid of screens and are more peaceful. Spending time in natural settings, shutting off alerts on your phone while you're at work, and avoiding eating in noisy cafeterias are all examples of this.

How are you able to tell if you're not doing well?

If you are irritable or short-fused, judgmental or feel as though you are being judged, angry, enraged, miserable, fundamentally crippled, or ill for extended periods of time for no apparent cause, these are all warning signs that you should be aware of. Pains in the head and stomach, extreme exhaustion, trouble sleeping, rashes, and irritability are all indications that something is most likely wrong.

Put yourself in the position of a student

People who have high levels of agency are always growing their capacity for learning and learning more by taking a more open and collaborative attitude to everything in life. This is one way that they learn more. This needs you to foster your natural curiosity and give yourself permission to open up to new experiences, talents, and people.


You may enroll in an engaging class, investigate the world around you through kinesthetic means (using your hands or your body), or spend some time playing or utilizing your imagination. You may also learn from other people if you maintain an attitude of curiosity, ask them questions with open-ended answers, listen with the goal of gaining information, and refrain from making snap judgements.

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It is not always simple to do this. The practice of having a growth mindset, in which one acknowledges that they are a work in progress and are capable of learning and developing, can be helpful in combating the fear of failure or judgement that is commonly associated with gaining new knowledge. If you have trouble letting go of perfectionism, it may be helpful to practice mindfulness meditation, which has been shown to reduce self-judgment, or to use cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques that help put mistakes in perspective. Both of these practices have been shown to reduce the amount of self-criticism that people experience.

Is it completely OK to shed a tear?

Research has shown that in addition to being a self-relieving activity, sobbing passionate tears also releases oxytocin and endorphins into the bloodstream. People who take these synthetic substances report feeling better, and they may also reduce their level of both physical and emotional suffering. Cry therapy has been shown to be effective in reducing emotional distress and enhancing feelings of well-being in patients.

What do you do when you realize that everything is not OK?

Change your current circumstance, don't be embarrassed about the things that in all actuality do fulfil you, acknowledge your disappointment, dial back, try to achieve something little, don't stay silent, and always remember that you can change, all of a sudden, but you don't need to. Change your current circumstance, don't be embarrassed about the things that in all actuality do fulfil you, acknowledge your disappointment, dial back, try to achieve something little, don't stay silent, and change your current

Find a solution

Approach the person in whom you have complete faith and either express your inclination to them or offer them the thing that is driving you crazy. You will feel more at ease if you make an effort to listen to what you have to say without passing judgement and if you accept the peculiarities you possess.

When you're high on emotion and you're losing your focus and you feel too exhausted to pray, don't get lost in the moment, all you need is somebody to say - It's okay not to be okay. Jo Yong

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